Because it’s life, things change. My best friend has moved away from me and we don’t get to see each other that often anymore. I was thinking about friendship today while I was running some errands. At first, I thought it was going to be the best way to be a friend but that would be stupid. There’s no best way to be a friend. Every friendship is unique in what it requires to sustain and continue. However, I think there’s a healthy way to go about friendship no matter what the requirements for your personal friendships.

I think it comes down to want vs. need. I’ll illustrate this with my own life. My friend is down south and I will probably only see him once a month from now on. Do I miss him? Of course. He’s my best bro. I love him.

But beyond that, my life hasn’t changed that much. Mostly because of the way I feel towards him. I want him in my life, I don’t need him in my life. Okay, that sentence worked better in my head. It makes him seem less important when he’s exceptionally important to me. What I’m getting at is not being needy.

If I was a different person I would be angry that he was leaving our treehouse. Instead, I’m happy that he’s moving on. And that works for everyone.

Being needy on the other hand is a surefire way to make sure that people kind of don’t want to be around you. But of course, you don’t want to play it too far the other way and be the cool person that doesn’t need anyone. Everyone thinks that guy’s a dick. It comes down to balance such as with all things. You have to have enough things in your life that you don’t need to rely on people all the time for your entertainment. You just need to also want to have them in your life. It makes when you hang out with people all the better because it’s just a cherry on top of the sundae of your life.

Once you life a fulfilling life on your own, you can enrich the lives of people around you. It’s like putting on your oxygen mask before taking care of the person next to you. Plus once you have hobbies you can find people with the same hobbies. I love it when a plan comes together.